Going to Hell?

I've been personally really struggling with the views of others regarding my child.

My child is beautiful, caring, sassy, creative, loud, & gender non conforming. That last part seems to allow anyone & everyone a voice to complain & criticize our parenting & my child.

I feel like I'm angry at God, I'm angry at the church, I'm angry at "christians" and I'm sad.  I question a lot in my head including who are my friends, are they true.

So, about a month ago, I had a coffee date with a friend who had invited me to a mom's group last year.  We had become fast friends.  Then this summer happened and I asked for prayers because child told me she was a girl.  Friend kinda tossed it to the side, saying I'm sure it's just a phase.  At the coffee date, I struggled with what name to use. She had previously known my child's name. My child chose a new girl's name & I had a hard time around friend.  So after talking about my child for a bit ( she was about 3 months into transition at this point), the friend brought up her churches view - which really isn't a view about trans kids.  In premise, the sermon was about how the church is welcoming of LGB people and they are welcome in the church, but marriage is to be kept sacred in a box between man & woman.

But I thought we aren't supposed to put God in a box? But what about trans people? Are they fucked all together?  I thought God loves all?  Maybe I believe in a hippy-dippy version of God.  But in my heart I know my child is loved by God.  I know my child was created for a purpose.  I know my child was wonderfully made.  I struggle with the belief that a choice that I don't think my child made, causes my child to go to hell.  Nope.  My God taught us to love one another first - above all else.