I grew up in the 80's. A common thing among kids who grew up in the 80's was that parents seemed to be concerned with their child's size & weight.  I find this common among some of my fellow 80's peers.  I am sure it happened in other decades, but again I lived in the 80's, so its my lived experience.

It was supposedly on of the last generations were the parents wanted better for their kids. And the kids would likely attain a monetary value above what thier parents achieved.

I grew up in a double working home were my dad owned his company & my mom worked for a company.  My mom worked long hours, I think as a choice at times to escape our families reality.  It was her addiction at the time.

My addiction I guess was food.  It was an ingrained thing.  Party=food. Holiday=food, ect.  We were a meat & potatoes kinda family because that's what my dad liked & a lot of times he was the chef that night.  There are things I distinctly remember, like my mom getting angry because I was too chubby for a size 6x jumper. Like my dad bargaining multiple times with me to loose weight;  buy you a nintendo game boy if you loose 50lbs?  Like having a cabinet full of candy, but it was off limits to me.  There are more, but you get the idea.

As a result of that and other things, my self respect & self image was low during my childhood. I wouldnt realize this until my 20's actually.  As a result I am trying my hardest to not repeat history.  Food is so tied in with trauma & while my kids have in utero trauma, it still should be respected.

So because of my past, I'm trying to raise the future without much condemnation.  I want my child to know that I'm ok with them being them, whatever that means.  I didn't get that until I was older, but I don't want my children to be in their 20's or thirties without knowing they are accepted & loved for who they are no matter what.